Tuesday, April 29, 2008

Riding The Rails

Have you ever taken the Amtrak Train across the United States? HHMMMM – this is one journey you will not want to miss! You must try this at least once in your life time and if you are a parent - make sure you take your kid(s) too so that they enjoy the experience with you!

We left Nebraska and rode the Amtrak rails all the way to Chicago – and boarded another train leaving at 10:00pm Monday night –to continue on to New York. We finally left Albany and changed onto the bus and are now in Springfield, MA will be at South Station Boston at 9:30ish.

During the trip home I read my signed copy of Plains Bound Fragile Cargo that Charlotte wrote – interviewing many of the actual Orphans who rode the trains from New York to become adopted by families out west. I was surprised to see that Darren LaCroix, Author, Comedian, Toastmasters 2001 World Champion of Public Speaking and my coach http://www.humor411.com/ wrote on the back cover “Plains Bound: Fragile include fascinating stories of which I would never have been aware of. Sincere thanks for sharing and all of the effort you put into capturing this part of history. Plains Bound: Fragile Cargo is a must-read for anyone who likes history”.
On the second page Darren wrote: “Wow, the time and effort spent capturing a piece of history will chronicle a part of history that would have otherwise been lost. Plains Bound: Fragile Cargo includes fascinating stories which I would have never been aware of. Sincere thanks…”

“Lester’s poem said it best, ‘But when you know their story your troubles seem to pale’”. “His wisdom is inspiring! Great work! I wish Charlotte must success in her speaking career. I hope many people will be blessed by hearing her tell the stories of the Orphan Train.”

Another BIG and exciting surprise was that listed on Page vii was the New England Home for Little Wanderers on included with the list of
Numbers of children and poor families placed out from 1854 until 1910 by the Children’s Aid Society (Taken from 1910 Annual Report of the C.A.S.) “Free Home Placing Out”

Children;s Aids Society

Taken from Page V of the book Plains Bound
Charles Loring Brace “Brace believed he could change the future of these children by removing them from the streets and placing them in morally upright rural families in which they were needed, he thought they would have a chance of escaping a lifetime of suffering”.

http://www.childrensaidsociety.org/about/history

Catherine Fitzgibbons (Sister Mary Irene) of the Sisters of Charity Founded the New York Foundling Hospital

Sunday, April 27, 2008

All Aboard !

“Too many children in foster care are falling through cracks. . . .
Be a hero -- take the time learn about adoption today.”

Bruce Willis

We boarded the “Fremont & Elkhorn Valley Railroad is a division of the National Railway Historic Society chartered as the Eastern Nebraska Chapter National Railway Historical Society in 1985 – the named changed to Nebraska Railroad Museum – the mission of education and preservation of railroad history”. http://www.fremontrailroad.com/

This was quite a ride in an old Vintage car going about 10 miles an hour! I loved the “ladies lounge”! We began our journey and Charlotte had two woman Joanne and Judy dress who are Toastmasters (!) in costumes and they were the speaker introducers.

We listened to each others stories – they were two live Orphan Train rides Lela and Lola who are in the 90;s today. They spoke about their journey on the Orphan Train ride and how they were “lined up like cattle” and hand picked or that some of them had ribbons with numbers pinned on them – and the people who wanted them had the matching ribbon and number pinned on them.

Lola explained that she and her sister went to a family but the family took her back because they “wanted a boy” – then Lola was taken back to the Orphanage - but then adopted by a loving family.

Lela explained that she was “never adopted but was an indentured servant” taken in by a “mean foster mother”. Lela shared a story about her Raggedy Ann doll that she brought with her to explain how she use to hug her doll when she was sad, scared or lonely and the foster mother took the doll and told her to “come to the furnace room” – then the mother shoved the doll in the furnace. Although that was sad to listen to – it was not unbelievable to me because I could relate with sad Foster Family stories. I will eventually share them when I complete my own book titled The Little Wanderers Home.

I shared my connection to The Home for Little Wanderers and how it was part of the Orphan Train Movement. I shared about Orchard Home – the female Group home that I stayed at and Longview Farm where my brother lived – I shared about the 20 programs The Home has today and how instrumental The Home was in my life and continues to be.

Then Charlotte invited one of her illustrators to show his drawings of water color portraits for one of her books.

Charlotte presented Lela and Lola fleece embordied sweaters that had the titles of her books and then shared her story and she mentioned that she and her husband Kevin are now foster parents and how some children are harder to foster – as she spoke we both cried – she thanked me for coming because she needed that “other side” to see a person who has traveled through the system. She shared that an Orphan named Lester said to her “Charlotte, you know foster kids are bad blood don’t you? We we’re bad blood”. There was not a dry eye – and no one knows like I know that!

More news later about speaking at the Keene Memorial Library – which was a surprise!
http://www.keenelib.ne.us/

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FACTS

Indentured Servant

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Indentured_servant
An indentured servant is a laborer under contract of the employer for some period of time, usually three to seven years, in exchange for such things as ship's passage, food, land and accommodations.

Unlike a slave, an indentured servant was required to work only for a limited term specified in a signed contract.

A major problem with the system of indentured servitude was that in many cases, an indentured servant would become indebted to their employer, who would forgive the debt in exchange for an extension to the period of their indenture, which could thereby continue indefinitely. In other cases, indentured servants were subject to violence at the hands of their employers in the homes or fields in which they worked.

The labor-intensive cash crop of tobacco was farmed in the American South by indentured laborers in the 17th and 18th centuries.[1] Indentured servitude was not the same as the apprenticeship system by which skilled trades were taught, but similarities do exist between the two mechanisms, in that both require a set period of work.

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Foster Care

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Foster_care

Foster care is a system by which a certified, stand-in "parent(s)" cares for minor children or young peoples who have been removed from their birth parents or other custodial adults by state authority. Responsibility for the young person is assumed by the relevant governmental authority and a placement with another family found. There can be voluntary placements by a parent of a child into foster care.

Foster placements are monitored until the birth family can provide appropriate care or the rights of the birth parents are terminated and the child is adopted. A third option, guardianship, is sometimes utilized in certain cases where a child cannot be reunified with their birth family and adoption is not right for them. This generally includes some older foster children who may be strongly bonded to their family of origin and unwilling to pursue adoption. It also may include cases where children are placed with grandparents or other relatives, where the placement is likely to be permanent but those relatives don't want to fight the birth parents in court. Voluntary foster care may be utilized in circumstances where a parent is unable or unwilling to care for a child.

For instance, a child may have behavioral problems requiring specialized treatment or the parent might have a problem which results in a temporary or permanent inability to care for the child(ren). Involuntary foster care may be implemented when a child is removed from their caregiver because it is believed such removal is necessary for his/her own safety. A foster parent receives monetary reimbursement from the placement agency for each child while the child is in his/her home to help cover the cost of meeting the child's needs. The amount of financial assistance typically varies from state to state and even city to city.

Saturday, April 26, 2008

And We;re Off!

"Spread love everywhere you go. Let no one ever come to you without leaving happier." Mother Teresa

We arrived at South West Airport yesterday morning - thanks to friend Doug who drove us early to Manchester New Hampshire Airport!

We checked in our luggage and went through the security check point. A buzzer went off and a "female retriever" was called in, which meant I had to get the full "pat down" just in case I was confiscating any "forbidden paraphaneila". All padded up & down - OK all set - waiting to board the plane.

Now this is an odd system - no seats are assigned - it is first come first serve - so if you want to sit with friends or family - you may need to beg the other passagers (who are already sitting with their family and friends) which is what we had to do and thankfully a woman was kind enough to do just that for us (!) We did repay her as well as two of the stewardess - by giving them each a pipecleaner flower that Sabrina made on the plane - she is very creative & thoughtful!

HINT for you parents traveling with children - they NEED activies and long thin colored pipe cleaners are a great way to keep them occupied (cut them in advance if you need to). -

{OH and let me credit Stephanie Demiris SDemiris@toastmasters.org from Toastmasters International http://www.toastmasters.org/ for this idea which was a great creative activitiy that she had us do during our weekend at District Officer Region Vii Training - in Philadelphia in Nov 2007 - THANKS STEPH!!}.

I was very impressed with Sabrina and traveling on the plane - we changed two planes - but took off three times (stayed on one flight) because when she was four we flew to Florida - she did fine on the flight out - but on the way home she cried the Whhhhhhhhhoooooooolllllllleeeeeeeee way back to Boston - it was very difficult and many of the passengers were giving her gifts and toys to get her to stop - so you can guess how worried I was - but at 10-years-old she is now a PRO!!

We met our new Nebraska friends - Charolette, Sarah and their friends - we took a tour at the Joslyn Castle in Omaha NE, set up the room, ate dinner, enjoyed the pool and jacuzzi and went to bed.

Friends I hope I can "spread the love where ever I go" like Mother Theresa! How about you - do you try to help others to feel happier after they have connected with you? How about in your speeches - is your message empowering others to want to do more, give more, be more? Do you help to change others by spreading your LOVE?

I will post more news later - We've got a train to catch!

Sherri & Sabrina Raftery

Tuesday, April 22, 2008

This Just In!!

Always vote for principle, though you may vote alone,
and you may cherish the sweetest reflection that your
vote is never lost.”
John Quincy Adams

Friends - This just in! On Saturday April 5, 2008 I met and interviewed with the District 31 Nomination Chairperson and the Committee for the position of the 2008-2009 Lt. Governor of Education & Training.

The Nomination Chairperson, Immediate Past District Governor, Deb Cartier, DTM has followed-up tonight Tuesday April 22, 2008 with the Nomination Committee's report by email in a secured pdf file!

YES - I will be listed on the ballot as the 2008-2009 Lt. Governor of Education and Training – At this time it appears no one else is running for this position - however, anyone is certainly welcome to run from the floor.

I will post more as soon as I know – which will be on Saturday May 10, 2008 at the 2008 Spring Conference Best Western Royal Plaza Hotel and Trade Center in Marlborough during the District 31 Business meeting

http://www.igroops.com/igroops/d31/cal/VIEW+2008+May+10+#

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FACTS -

NOMINATION

http://www.english-test.net/sat/vocabulary/words/038/sat-definitions.php

Definition of nomination (noun)form: nominationsthe act or ceremony of naming a man or woman for office http://www.thefreedictionary.com/meeting
meet·ing n.

1. The act or process or an instance of coming together; an encounter.
2. An assembly or gathering of people, as for a business, social, or religious purpose.
Idiom:

meeting of the minds
Agreement; concord.

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MEETING

Read more at link - http://www.answers.com/topic/meeting

Meetings, while disliked by many, are an essential part of myriad business operations. They are often the best venue for communications to take place, for issues to be discussed, for priorities to be set, and for decisions to be made in various realms of business management. Because it is more common for responsibility to be spread out across an organization these days, and because cross-functional efforts are common at almost every business, meetings are the best method for achieving organizational participation. http://www.answers.com/topic/meeting

Saturday, April 19, 2008

“2008 Orphan Train Celebration” - Trip Planned & Booked!!

“The World is a book, and those who
do not travel read only a page”. St. Augustine

On Friday Morning April 25th Sabrina and I will be boarding a Southwest airplane from the Manchester, New Hampshire Airport and heading “PLAINS BOUND” to Omaha, Nebraska - Leppley Airport to attend the “2008 Orphan Train Celebration”! http://www.orphantraindepot.com/ProgramsAndEvents.html

Back in January 2008, I emailed Charlotte Endorf, writer, author of
Plains Bound: Fragile Cargo: Revealing Orphan Train Reality
http://www.amazon.com/Plains-Bound-Fragile-Revealing-Reality/dp/159800235X to share with her the incredible news The Home for Little Wanderers delivered to me via the phone….that I was picked to be one of the HONOREES during The Home’s Annual Visions and Voices Fundraiser Celebration on May 28, 2008 in Boston http://www.thehome.org/

Charlotte invited to me to come to Nebraska and speak about “The Home for Little Wanderers” during this “2008 Orphan Trains Celebration” event on actual Orphan Trains on April 26 and 27, 2008.

I will be bringing my laptop and do plan on BLOGGING our experiences and I CAN tell you this - our Trip to Nebraska has a jammed PACKED itinerary!

We arrive on Friday April 25th and will be staying at the Wilderness Lodge for two nights. If you have little ones go to the site and download some of their coloring pages. Or even if you are an adult! Coloring is therapeutic!! http://www.wildernesslodgecc.com/

On Saturday April 26th, and Sunday April 27th we will be meeting and greeting many people who are also coming to Nebraska from different states to attend this event. Some of the people are actual Orphan Train passengers; some are biological relatives, adopted relatives, or even foster families. We will ride the trains, share stories, photos and take more photos of the many other exciting activities.

Then on Sunday evening Sabrina and I are checking into the Holiday Inn Omaha Convention Center and GET THIS (!) – It is a CoCo Key Resort and for those of you who read my January 2008 post KNOW that Sabrina and I will really enjoy splashing around again on the water slides!! YA BOO!!
http://themeparks.about.com/gi/dynamic/offsite.htm?zi=1/XJ&sdn=themeparks&cdn=travel&tm=8&gps=160_770_788_439&f=00&su=p531.31.150.ip_p532.6.150.ip_p531.29.420.ip_p284.8.150.ip_&tt=11&bt=1&bts=0&zu=http%3A//www.cocokeyresort.com/index.php%3F/Omaha/index/

Early Monday morning April 28, 2008 we will take a shuttle bus over to the Amtrak Station http://www.amtrak.com/ and board a train from Omaha to the heart of the “windy city” of Chicago. Since this is a six-hour layover stop Sabrina and I will definitely see some sights in Chicago! We will then hop back on another train to Albany, New York on Tuesday April 29th and finally board a five-hour motor coach bus and arrive at South Station - Boston, Mass on Tuesday evening, where a friend will pick us up and take us HOME SWEET HOME!

I must admit it is an honor for me to be asked to join this magical event and share a part of this history – but the best part with the help of some friends I have I found an affordable way to travel so that I can also bring my ten-year-old daughter Sabrina along to experience this with me! PRICELESS!! .... We are ready to head PLAINS BOUND!
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Facts

By Train They Came – by Charlotte and Sarah Endorf
See this link http://www.libreriauniversitaria.it/by-train-they-came-charlotte/book/9781432717339

“Climb aboard to hear the true stories of the children who rode the Orphan Train By Train They Came: Fragile Excess Baggage, Vol. 1 is the perfect adjunct to Plains Bound: Fragile Cargo, which brought us the extraordinary history of the Orphan Train Riders.
In this latest work, written especially for young people, the Endorfs share the personal stories of those whose lives were forever altered when they were taken by rail to be placed with foster families throughout America”. “Praise for By Train They Came: Fragile Excess Baggage, Vol. 1
"The message of the lives of the Orphan Train riders is one of endurance, perseverance and survival. In this new book, each story is unique unto itself with a lesson to be learned from each."Mary Ellen Johnson, Founder of the Orphan Train Heritage Society of America, Inc., Arkansas http://www.orphantrainriders.com/founder11.html
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Orphan Train History

Between 1854 and 1929 an estimated 200,000 orphaned, abandoned, and homeless children were placed out in what is known today as the Orphan Train Era. The name is derived from the children's situations, though they were not all orphans, and the mode of transportation used to move them across 47 states and Canada.
When the orphan train movement began, it is estimated that 30,000 abandoned children were living on the streets of New York City. Two charity institutions, The Children's Aid Society and The New York Foundling Hospital, determined to help these children.The aid institutions developed a program that placed homeless city children into homes throughout the country.
The children were transported to their new homes on trains which were eventually labeled “orphan trains.
This period of mass relocation of children in the United States is widely recognized as the beginning of documented foster care in America.

Tuesday, April 8, 2008

"CHERRYSTONES & CHOWDAH"

"CHERRYSTONES & CHOWDAH"

“The Union Oyster House is the oldest restaurant in Boston and
the oldest restaurant in continuous service in the U.S. —
the doors have always been open to diners since 1826”.

http://www.unionoysterhouse.com/

I received an invitation from Bob Sherburn bsherburne@thehome.org to THE HOME FOR LITTLE WANDERERS – 2008 “Cherrystones & Chowdah” Annual Donor Appreciation Reception honoring THE HOME'S "leadership supporters" at the Union Oyster House on Wednesday April 9, 2008. Last year, I was asked to be the Keynote Speaker and of course I made sure to thank the MANY generous donors for their kindness in supporting THE HOMES 20 different programs.

After I spoke, I also met many of the donors in person and one in particular was Virginia Griffin, who gasped while I was speaking about Longview Farm, a residential home for adolescent males where my brother lived. Turns out Virginia has been volunteering at Longview Farm for over 10 years so it was no surprise to hear that she received the Massachusetts Council of Human Service Providers (MCHSP) “2007 Volunteer of the Year” Award!! http://www.providers.org/index.html

http://www.thehome.org/site/PageServer?pagename=news_newsletter_spring07_honors_awards#virginia

Virginia informed me that she was also the 2007 President of the Walpole Chamber
of Commerce http://www.walpolechamber.com/ and then she asked me if I would be interested in speaking at Longview Farm for an event. WOW – I was sooo excited to be able to give back and share my story with the male residents and hopefully inspire them!
http://www.thehome.org/site/PageServer?pagename=programs_residential


Another interesting fact about Virginia is that she owns the Watson's Candies Store
at 761 Main St Walpole, MA 02081 Phone: (508) 668-2634 and she has the Longview Farm residents work there with her.

Friends if you are a candy lover make the trip to Watsons and especially visit during the summer season when the ice cream counter is open. I highly recommend ordering my personal favorite the Coffee Frappe – YUM!

“People who come from dysfunctional families are not destined for a dysfunctional life. People who have a criminal history can and do move on to legitimate and productive careers. If you were born and raised in a low-income neighborhood, it certainly does not mean that you must spend the rest of your life there. Your past does not have to equal your future. Change in this world is inevitable; make it work to your advantage”. Bo Bennett, Author, Year To Success http://www.yeartosuccess.com/igroops/y2s/adminpages/bobennett


THE HOME FOR LITTLE WANDERERS

http://www.thehome.org/site/PageServer?pagename=events_voices_visions
“The Home’s mission is to ensure the healthy emotional, mental, and social development of children at risk, their families, and communities. The Home's work is guided by a belief in the right of all children to be safe, nurtured and developed to reach their full potential. Although seemingly insurmountable obstacles are sometimes placed in their way, children’s resilience combined with the support of caring adults can make anything possible”.

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FACT

“Oysters were first served to the public in this country in 1763 when a
primitive saloon was opened in New York City in a Broad Street cellar”.

“In the 19th century, the American people were enveloped in an oyster craze. In every town there were oyster parlors, oyster cellars, oyster saloons, oyster bars, oyster houses, oyster stalls and oyster lunchrooms”.

“The toothpick was first used in the United States at the Union Oyster House. Enterprising Charles Forster of Maine first imported the picks from South America. To promote his new business he hired Harvard boys to dine at the Union Oyster House and ask for toothpicks”.

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DONOR

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Donor

A donor in general is a person that donates something voluntarily. Usually used to represent a form of pure altruism but sometimes used when the payment for a service is recognised by all parties as representing less than the value of the donation and that the motivation is altruistic.

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SUPPORTERS

peek at this link - http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Supporters

Wednesday, April 2, 2008

TOP OF THE HUB!

TOP OF THE HUB!

"One of Boston's finest dining destinations, the award-winning Top of the Hub features outstanding cuisine, impeccable service, and a sophisticated ambiance. Soaring 52 floors above the Back Bay, the restaurant and adjoining Skywalk Observatory offer guests a spectacular view of the Boston skyline from every table”. http://www.topofthehub.net/

Last Friday March 28, 2008 I was invited to the “TOP OF THE HUB” in Boston on the 52nd floor for Lunch with the CEO, Joan Wallace-Benjamin along with the three (there were four but one now lives in Texas and couldn’t attend) other HONROREES from THE HOME FOR LITTLE WANDERERS – and we had a delightful lunch and conversation. And although it was cloudy and raining last Friday - NONE of US noticed it a bit!!

http://www.thehome.org/site/PageServer

Of course I had Chowder and Lobster! And we ALL shared two delish’ous deserts among us. Also in attendance were Lisa, who is the director of Marketing and Deb who is on THE HOMES Board of Directors. (shoot I can’t find all the business cards from each person – but when I do I will repost the correct names and the other Honorees).

Now for those of you who are from Boston, or even Massachusetts you know that the Prudential Center and the John Hancock Tower are two of the tallest buildings here in the heart of Boston – known as the HUB – hence the restaurant is named TOP OF THE HUB!

If you haven’t been to either one – visit the observatories. The view of BOSTON is spectacular and you will love it even more at night!

http://www.prudentialcenter.com/dine/dine_detail.php?id=61

http://www.galinsky.com/buildings/hancockboston/index.htm

Before lunch US HONOREES met at THE HOME for Interviews, Video Taping, Photos and Tours of THE HOME and the Knight Children’s Center buildings.

“The Home for Little Wanderers is a nationally renowned, private, non-profit child and family service agency. It has been part of the Massachusetts landscape for over 200 years, making it the oldest agency of its kind in the nation and one of the largest in New England. Originally founded as a orphanage in 1799 (see history for more details), The Home today plays a leadership role in delivering services to thousands of children and families each year through a system of residential, community-based and prevention programs, direct care services, and advocacy”. http://www.thehome.org/site/PageServer

We are being HONORED by THE HOME for our accomplishments on Wednesday May 28, 2008
(see how I found out – peek at my January 2008 post “AN HONORED GUEST”).

I am a proud Graduate of THE HOME FOR LITTLE WANDERERS!

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FACTS

HONOREE

http://www.thefreedictionary.com/honoree

Noun

1. honoree - a recipient of honors in recognition of noteworthy accomplishments
recipient, receiver - a person who receives something

academician - someone elected to honorary membership in an academy

laureate - someone honored for great achievements; figuratively someone crowned with a laurel wreath

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HUB – too many definitions to list – please peek at this link

http://www.google.com/search?hl=en&ie=UTF-8&defl=en&q=define:Hub&sa=X&oi=glossary_definition&ct=title


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SKY SCRAPER

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Skyscraper

A skyscraper is a very tall, continuously habitable building. There is no official definition or a precise cutoff height above which a building may clearly be classified as a skyscraper. However, as per usual practice in most cities, the definition is used empirically, depending on the relative impact of the shape of a building to a city's overall skyline. Thus, depending on the average height of the rest of the buildings and/ or structures in a city, even a building of 80 meters height (approximately 262 ft) may be considered a skyscraper provided that it clearly stands out above its surrounding built environment and significantly changes the overall skyline of that particular city.

The word skyscraper originally was a nautical term referring to a tall mast or its main sail on a sailing ship. The term was first applied to buildings in the late 19th century as a result of public amazement at the tall buildings being built in Chicago and New York City.